Do you ever talk to yourself? I don’t mean the kind where you mutter under your breath while making coffee or folding laundry. I mean, do you ever speak truth to yourself? It can be painful, but it can also set you free. Below is a letter I wrote to myself. I basically called myself out. Cheesy? Maybe. But someone has to do it. And guess what? It really helped me.
I hope you find something here to encourage you, too. It’s never too late to change. To keep it real, and embrace the truth.
“Don’t run from your life. Turn around and face it. Take it by the horns and flip it on its head! Why do you feel like you end up on the bottom of the pile? …Maybe you put yourself there!
It’s time to fess up to your failings, forgive yourself, and toss all your “Mom Sterotypes” out the window. The Bible says you are more than a conqueror. That whole conquor part might appeal more to men than women, but there was no distinction made in the text. It’s for everyone! So listen, it’s okay to be a Conqueror!
What does that look like for you? Well, to be honest I don’t know. It’s different for everyone. Some people have been treated like doormats all their life. It that’s you, then you need to stand up for yourself! If a bully was messing with your kid, wouldn’t you step in or get help? See, sometimes you’ve got to step in and defend yourself. If you want off the bottom of the pile, you might have to get a little agressive and push your way out.
What if you aren’t sure whether you are on the bottom of the pile, or sitting on top of everyone else? Maybe you’re doing both. (You have been known to go from the bottom to the top in record time when your buttons are pushed!) There is a fine line between being bullied and put down, and becoming a bully yourself.
Since I know you would like to avoid getting squashed at the bottom of the pile, and you don’t want to end up sitting on top (it’s a lonely place up there), why don’t you try standing on your own two feet? Better yet, find a friend to stand next to you! You can hold each other up. Remember the Bible says, “Two are better than one. And a strand of three chords is not easily broken.”
So take a moment and ask yourself: “Where am I at? Am I standing tall?” If you’re not, don’t be quick to condemn yourself. After all, chances are good you’re not the only one who feels like they’re on the bottom of the pile.”